"Everything is worse at night".

"Everything is worse at night."
A phrase I use all of the time when someone is down and upset when it's dark.

Don't you agree though? Problems seem so much worse and more difficult to handle at night. Have you ever noticed that if you're upset or you feel as if you're going to cry - or you do cry - that it's generally night time?
I don't cry often at all, but if I do then it's usually in bed before I'm going to go to sleep when it's late, dark and I'm on my own so nobody knows that I've been crying.

It's called 'pathetic fallacy' : when the weather is a reflection of what mood you are in. For example, if it is raining then you're sad. When it is sunny then you're happy, when it's misty you're confused and when it's thundering and cloudy you're angry.
I don't know whether that's the case for you, but generally, people are in a better mood when it's sunny and a little more more sad when it's raining.

It's true for me though. At night, things are usually harder and I find I'm more upset about a problem I've had all day when it's night time and dark. On Saturday, I found out something potentially very upsetting for me, and it only dawned on me on Sunday night what it actually meant. Then I stayed up till 2am texting someone who, without knowing it, was the one person that could help me, the one person I wanted to talk to. And although I got upset on the Sunday night, I woke up Monday and things seemed slightly better - it was light and sunny outside and even though it was bitterly cold I felt better in myself. Maybe it was because of what the person I was talking to had said to me, and they certainly did help me a lot, I was able to deal with everything that had happened. But I stand by the idea that it was definitely to do with the fact that it had been night time too. I know I would probably have been upset about it in the day aswelll, but I might have acted and spoken differently to people had it have been daytime.

It took me nearly two whole days for the news to hit me, for it to sink it and make a difference in the way I felt, acted and my hopes for the future. Isn't it strange that it takes such a long time for us to be able to process and acknowledge the news and the effects it is going to have on us?

Walking in the rain, getting soaked through and not caring what you look like is such a good way to release hurt or upset. When I think of walking in the rain, it reminds me of my best friend because we both love doing it, especially when we're a bit down. Maybe you should try it sometime. I hope you don't have to do it because you're down, but if you ever are then try and see if it makes you feel better. It works for me even if it's such a tiny little bit better.



Next time you're down, look outside. See the wonders of the sky - the sun, the moon, the stars, the clouds, the colours - whatever time of day it is.

And if it is night time, remember... Things will be better in the morning.
Honestly.


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