Back to the happiness...
I go on about life changing moments, moments of truth, special moments that you'll keep with you forever. But those moments, what about the desicions we make in them? What do the desicions mean?
If we go with the answer or desicion that means your life will change, then you are not currently perfectly happy. If you're perfectly content with yourself, your life and the people in it, then you would not go with the desicion that would change things. Unless it was offering you something outstanding and out of this world that is a real once in a life time opportunity or very unlikely to happen again.
If you do want choose for something to change, then you are obviously not entirely happy because if you were then there would be nothing to change.
A friend said to me, when I asked her about it some time ago now, that she was perfectly content with how things were and didn't want anything to change. She liked how everyone was friends, good friends, just friends, and that was how she hoped it would stay. Well... That how it has stayed for her. I'm really glad. Happy, contented in life and love, (even though she doesn't even have a guy, I think that's even better).
But I haven't stopped thinking about how I wanted something to change. All year, I've wanted something to happen, something to change, something or someone exciting to come along and turn my world upsidedown - good or bad- just for a while, and when life is normal again then I'll be content with that fact that it's the calm after a storm. Well, that's what I'm hoping for, anyway. Someone did come and change things - but it lasted 3 weeks.
We've been hoping this will be 'the summer'. The summer of all summers to date, that brings love, laughs and memories. It's not looking so great at the moment though.
Once again, we're off. Just like when we went to Swindon - we're going to Newcastle upon Tyne. Let Newcastle be what we're hoping and waiting for - an escape from life for a while. But I suppose we'll just have to wait and see.
I hope everyone's world gets turned upside down at least once in their lives. That's the memory that everyone looks back on and smiles at.
x
Sunday, 26 July 2009
Wednesday, 22 July 2009
Friendship.
One of my best friends has been in Crete for two weeks, so the four times, the four rehersals, I was supposed to see her, I didn't, and now we have 6 or 7 weeks without rehersals and the chances are we probably won't meet up, because we normally don't. Thinking about it I might ask her, because I've really missed her. It's only been two weeks. I've been than long, and much longer in fact, without her many times, and we've still talked and kept in contact throughout the time, but I really miss her.
Another of my best friends is in Uganda. She's gone for four weeks - for whole weeks! - and when she gets back, she then goes away again for two weeks. I might not see her for a total of 9 weeks. It's heartbreaking really, considering after two weeks, I can't wait for her to be home. I miss her so much, sometimes I have to really try hard to distract myself from thinking of her.
It's upsetting. But the worst thing about it is, in a years time, we will all be praying to get into the university of our choice, and then we'll be scattering ourselves all over the UK and only seeing each other at major holidays. Who knows if we'll even stay in touch to do that? Whatever happens, I know I'm going to make a huge effort to, because of how much I miss 2 girls after 2 weeks of holidays.
Yesterday, the group of girls we used to hang around with in year 11 all got together (apart from the one in Uganda, naturally), to celebrate one of our birthdays. It was such a good day. The girl whose birthday it was left last year, and although we promised we would keep in touch and see each other all the time, we haven't seen each other half as much as I would have expected or hoped. I suppose that's the way it goes though, isn't it?
Nothing ever happens the way you expect it to.
I'm yet to decide whether that's a good or a bad thing.
Hopefully, this summer, we will see much more of each other than we have over the course of this school year.
The effect that a friend can have on you is so different to any other kind of relationship. Nothing can effect a friendship, only you and the friends themselves.
I have the best friends anyone could ever ask for. I hope we stay in touch forever. It might be a big wish, but I've seen it does, so I don't see why we can't do it.
I think is it such an important thing, don't you? A friendship, it could be with anyone, someone your age, someone older, younger, a teacher, a family member, someone in the same club or school or area as you, a friendship can effect and influence you like nothing else. It can teach you anything, it can change you forever.
"A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words."
That is one of my favourite ever quotes. It summarises my friends so perfectly.
I hope everyone has at least one best friend in their lifetime. The belief, hope, and memory of a best friend is worth more than anyone could ever realise.
x
Another of my best friends is in Uganda. She's gone for four weeks - for whole weeks! - and when she gets back, she then goes away again for two weeks. I might not see her for a total of 9 weeks. It's heartbreaking really, considering after two weeks, I can't wait for her to be home. I miss her so much, sometimes I have to really try hard to distract myself from thinking of her.
It's upsetting. But the worst thing about it is, in a years time, we will all be praying to get into the university of our choice, and then we'll be scattering ourselves all over the UK and only seeing each other at major holidays. Who knows if we'll even stay in touch to do that? Whatever happens, I know I'm going to make a huge effort to, because of how much I miss 2 girls after 2 weeks of holidays.
Yesterday, the group of girls we used to hang around with in year 11 all got together (apart from the one in Uganda, naturally), to celebrate one of our birthdays. It was such a good day. The girl whose birthday it was left last year, and although we promised we would keep in touch and see each other all the time, we haven't seen each other half as much as I would have expected or hoped. I suppose that's the way it goes though, isn't it?
Nothing ever happens the way you expect it to.
I'm yet to decide whether that's a good or a bad thing.
Hopefully, this summer, we will see much more of each other than we have over the course of this school year.
The effect that a friend can have on you is so different to any other kind of relationship. Nothing can effect a friendship, only you and the friends themselves.
I have the best friends anyone could ever ask for. I hope we stay in touch forever. It might be a big wish, but I've seen it does, so I don't see why we can't do it.
I think is it such an important thing, don't you? A friendship, it could be with anyone, someone your age, someone older, younger, a teacher, a family member, someone in the same club or school or area as you, a friendship can effect and influence you like nothing else. It can teach you anything, it can change you forever.
"A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words."
That is one of my favourite ever quotes. It summarises my friends so perfectly.
I hope everyone has at least one best friend in their lifetime. The belief, hope, and memory of a best friend is worth more than anyone could ever realise.
x
Saturday, 4 July 2009
Your Heart or Your Head?
I posted a status on facebook recently asking whether we should follow our hearts or our heads. What do you think? I'd like to know your opinion.
"To follow you heart, or your head?"
I've copied and pasted exactly what people put, and in the right order. These are the answers that I got :
"your head"
"do what you feel or thinks right, and don't care what others think :)"
"your nose"
"follow ure heart, u mite end up regreting it"
"Your head, you a bright girl,, your heads choice will be the one that will be better in long termm"
"its better to have lived and loved than to never love at all"
"aslong as your intentions are right, and regrets make you a stronger a person, i live by that :)"
"Heart. It will make you happier!"
"Follow your heart"
"if theres one thing i know bethan its this, u dnt wana luk bk and think what cuda bin cuz it will torture u. atleast try atleast that way u'll know for shaw"
"follow your head your a smart girl but follow your heart because only you no how you feel"
"HEART"
"Hmm heart dosent always give you the right answers :)...so head (Y). depends on the situation ifi ts boy trouble then head..if its wanting to jump in a random swimming pool in majorca (or was it tennerife?) then heart lol ♥ "
"*in reply to the last one* ures sounds like its ment to be the other way round lol x"
Do you agree with these? I had a discussion with one of those people who said we should follow our hearts, and he gave very good reasons for his choice. No-one should ever have to look back and think what could have been, but didn't because they never acted upon it.
I am still undecided though. I think it definately depends on the situation.
I firmly believe that it depends on the risk you're willing to take for the desicion.
I think I may have discussed this before on another blog, but I think it deserves a whole blog dedicated to it because it is very important. I also think it is very dependant on the situation.
It's all about the risk taking, really, isn't it? I mean, if you want something - or someone - you have to risk things such as pride, dignity, maybe time, money and effort. But if you're willing to take these risks then the thing or person you're risking them for is obviously worth it. Whether or not you are sure it is the right thing to do, don't you think you should give it a go anyway? What do you have to lose? Maybe those things, but are they really that important? All there is to know, is how much you want this, and how far you are willing to go. Do the consequences really matter?
And does it really matter how likely it is to go the way you want? If you want something, how do you know which way it is going to go - whatever the chances? It could be the lucky moment - your moment - where things go exactly the way you want them to. But you won't know if you don't try.
I don't really believe in regret, I think it is pointless and there is always something to learn from a mistake so something good can always come out of every situation. But if you are to regret, is it better to regret something that you did do, than regret something that you didn't? I'd rather regret something I did, because I would know that whatever happens, I tried and I acted on my feelings. "What if" is such a question that associates with regret.
To follow your heart or your head?
That is the question.
Whichever is saying yes, listen.
Anything can happen. But only if you let it.
x
"To follow you heart, or your head?"
I've copied and pasted exactly what people put, and in the right order. These are the answers that I got :
"your head"
"do what you feel or thinks right, and don't care what others think :)"
"your nose"
"follow ure heart, u mite end up regreting it"
"Your head, you a bright girl,, your heads choice will be the one that will be better in long termm"
"its better to have lived and loved than to never love at all"
"aslong as your intentions are right, and regrets make you a stronger a person, i live by that :)"
"Heart. It will make you happier!"
"Follow your heart"
"if theres one thing i know bethan its this, u dnt wana luk bk and think what cuda bin cuz it will torture u. atleast try atleast that way u'll know for shaw"
"follow your head your a smart girl but follow your heart because only you no how you feel"
"HEART"
"Hmm heart dosent always give you the right answers :)...so head (Y). depends on the situation ifi ts boy trouble then head..if its wanting to jump in a random swimming pool in majorca (or was it tennerife?) then heart lol ♥ "
"*in reply to the last one* ures sounds like its ment to be the other way round lol x"
Do you agree with these? I had a discussion with one of those people who said we should follow our hearts, and he gave very good reasons for his choice. No-one should ever have to look back and think what could have been, but didn't because they never acted upon it.
I am still undecided though. I think it definately depends on the situation.
I firmly believe that it depends on the risk you're willing to take for the desicion.
I think I may have discussed this before on another blog, but I think it deserves a whole blog dedicated to it because it is very important. I also think it is very dependant on the situation.
It's all about the risk taking, really, isn't it? I mean, if you want something - or someone - you have to risk things such as pride, dignity, maybe time, money and effort. But if you're willing to take these risks then the thing or person you're risking them for is obviously worth it. Whether or not you are sure it is the right thing to do, don't you think you should give it a go anyway? What do you have to lose? Maybe those things, but are they really that important? All there is to know, is how much you want this, and how far you are willing to go. Do the consequences really matter?
And does it really matter how likely it is to go the way you want? If you want something, how do you know which way it is going to go - whatever the chances? It could be the lucky moment - your moment - where things go exactly the way you want them to. But you won't know if you don't try.
I don't really believe in regret, I think it is pointless and there is always something to learn from a mistake so something good can always come out of every situation. But if you are to regret, is it better to regret something that you did do, than regret something that you didn't? I'd rather regret something I did, because I would know that whatever happens, I tried and I acted on my feelings. "What if" is such a question that associates with regret.
To follow your heart or your head?
That is the question.
Whichever is saying yes, listen.
Anything can happen. But only if you let it.
x
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