"Be Yourself... Everyone Else."

A few days ago, I was in one of those cool little shops that no-one really knows about but everything in the shop is really amazing and interesting. The sort of place you can get everyone a Christmas present because it's just full of little treasures.
There were some cards in there with quotes on and I spent ages reading every single one. I loved loads of them, but the my favourite was this:

"The challenge is to be yourself in a world that is trying to make you just like everyone else."

It's my new favourite quote. It's strange though, because that topic seems to have been coming up quite a lot lately, 'being like everyone else'. I'm not really sure why. It's an on-going argument between me and a friend of mine, that people are the same but there are a few special people that stand out.
I do believe everyone is different in their own way once you get to know them but there are definitely some special people, some people that are like you've never met before in your life and you never will again. If you want to find those people go to university. Or meet my friends!

I'd love to be one of those people. Someone that makes an impression, that makes people think and someone people don't forget straight away. Those people are - there is no other word for it - special (in a good way).

This blog is kept short because I'm off to get a train now - I'm going home! I can't wait to see my family and friends. The people that will always be there for me no matter what, you will never forget me. They may not stand out in everyone's crowd, but in mine they do, they glow because they're such amazing people and I can spot them from a mile off.
I just wanted a blog with that quote in, because it describes the way I feel about that topic perfectly. Be yourself. Don't let the world change you.



"The challenge is to be yourself in a world that is trying to make you just like everyone else."
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Judgements and Conversation.

What is it with girls falling for people so easily?
Maybe it's not all girls, maybe it's just me. Maybe my heart is open and ready to love anyone who crosses my path. I'm so open minded about people, give everyone the benefit of the doubt and like everyone unless they give me good reason not to. Whenever I meet people I come to the conclusion of whether or not I will or want to be friends with this person - and if it's a lad, whether I could like them more than a friend or not. That's the only judgements I make about new people really, the relationship I might have with them in the future, because I don't like to judge and I always go into every new relationship with any person, whatever the relationship might be, with an open mind.

Maybe that's why I fall for people for easily - because I keep an open mind and know that I could fall for anyone really. There was one person I had decided I wouldn't like as more than a friend. I don't think I should make those decisions any more because I've proved myself wrong and it's only been a couple of weeks.

I don't really possess the talent of the art of conversation. I haven't mastered it yet. I'm not really good at making conversation with people I don't know that well unless we've been given something to talk about that I know about and I have an opinion on. It's a flaw that I'm working on all the time because I'd love to be able to chat away, be confident and always have something to say. I admire people that have that quality. I admire all of the people I've moved in with and their friends because they all have the talent of conversation and talking, even if the person they are talking to isn't contributing to the conversation very much. Hence, I just sit and listen the majority of the time, sometimes I chip in if I think of something and I speak if someone directs a comment or question at me, but that's pretty much as far as it goes.

Everyone makes judgements within minutes of meeting new people. They say you make a judgement within between 3 and 10 seconds of seeing or meeting someone new which is probably quite true for most people. Within the first 5 minutes of talking to someone, you judge what the person is like, whether you'll get on and you decide what your relationship could be in the future; whether you'll be friends, acquaintances, best friends, enemies, lovers, partners.
You judge people by what they're wearing, what their face and hair look like, by how much they smile, how much they talk, what they say and their expression. I'm terrible for it, but usually I'm right in my judgements even though I know it's wrong to judge.

Well, I've been wrong. I was warned. I'd already decided how far all our relationships would go. Maybe I should just let things run their course and not decide anything straight away.

But is judging really wrong? People say "shouldn't judge". I say it all the time. I believe you shouldn't judge someone in a bad way until you actually get to know them but then it's not a judgement any more. Judgements within the first few minutes should only be good ones, or open minded ones like what your relationship might be with them in the future. Also, if you do think something bad then the conclusion would be "I'll be careful with how I act or how I am with this person just in case", but it shouldn't be a bad judgement. Does that even make sense? I know what I mean. But as I said, I don't have the art of conversation.


What is it with girls falling for people so easily?
Maybe it's not all girls, maybe it's just me.

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Being Closed Or Open With People.

I used to think that being really closed, secretive and not telling anyone anything was the way to go. When no-one knew your secrets and thoughts then there was no way you could get hurt from them. I admired people who could deal with everything themselves, people who never needed or wanted to tell anyone anything. I always wanted to be one of those people, so I taught myself to do it with every new person that I met. My guard is always up, don't trust them for a long time until you believe they've earned your trust, don't tell anyone anything.

Yesterday, I had the first proper conversation with someone I've met from moving away from home to university. I met him a few weeks ago but last night I had my first real conversation with him one on one and he was just so open about everything. The fact that he's only known me a few weeks and this was our first proper chat, and he answered any deep question I asked, he didn't mind me knowing anything about him and he said that there wasn't anything about him that people didn't know anyway because he is just such an open person. Although I don't know him well, I can imagine that he is a very strong person mentally and emotionally, so being open works for him.

I find that a bit crazy if I'm honest, because my whole life I've been building myself up to a point where I can be strong and independent and as soon as I finally get to that place when I can be those things, someone comes into my life and turns everything upside down and prove my opinions completely wrong all over again.

Do you think it's better to be open or closed? I think I might stick with being closed right now, but who knows what the future brings?

Being at university doesn't just teach you about your course and how to live on your own. It teaches you so many new things about people, about yourself, about the ways of life, about mentalities and how to cope with things.

How many times since I got here have different people said "you've got a lot to learn"? I didn't even realise it before, I thought I knew everything, I thought I'd be sorted for the rest of my life. But now I realise that I've got so much to learn.

I just can't wait to learn it all.
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Desperation of a Homesick Girl.

I would give anything to be with my best friends right now.

Please, someone tell me it gets easier leaving your best friends and not seeing them everyday like I'm used to. I miss them so much and I have no-one to talk to. I don't feel like I'm being myself because I'm scared they won't like me. If they don't like the person I'm pretending to be it doesn't matter so much.
I'd love to have a best friend with me here.

I don't understand so many things. Is it me? Is it the person I am? Is it something I do?
I just need someone to care.

I miss you so much.
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The Next Step.

I know it's been a while. Over three weeks. So much has happened in the last few weeks, I haven't had time to write. The moments when I did have the time, I haven't had the energy or the inspiration.
My whole life I've been waiting for something more but recently I've forgotten about waiting for something more because I've been so busy with new things. I guess that's a good thing though, it's exhausting always wishing for something more. I'm quite happy at the moment, although I don't really fit in anywhere at the moment. I'm in the lurch, thrown into the deep end of a different pool, one that I've never been in before and I don't know which way to swim.

I'm officially a university student. I live in a house with 7 other students - 2 girls, 5 boys - and I love it. I love the people here so much. I have my reservations though.

You know when you're thrown in at the deep end? When you start a club or a new school half way through the year or the season and everyone has already made friends, they're all in their own groups and you need to find some friends but it's difficult to get into other people's groups when they've already formed? And when you do get into a group, there is always one (or two or three or four) people who don't see you as part of their group because you weren't there from the beginning, therefore you're not as worthy as everyone else. It's a little bit like that here. I've been accepted with open arms by most of them. You'd expect the girls to be less welcoming than the lads, but that certainly isn't the case here.

It's not like I'm having problems, I love every single one of them, I'm just a little apprehensive. I know that they're all really trustworthy and lovely people, I just can't wait for the day that I really will be "one of them", like really truly one of them, not just them saying it.
I keep texting my friends at home with lyrics of songs that come on when I've been out that remind me of them. It's weird because all of my memories are back at home but all of the people I'm with here, their memories are here. They are with the people that the songs remind them of already. I can't wait for the time when I hear a song and it reminds me of the people here, that I can sing and dance with to it here.

I can't believe I'm actually here. I was talking to my best friend (who I miss so much!) and we were saying, "we made it!" We're actually at university, like we've been dreaming of for years and years.

We've taken the next step. This is the beginning of the rest of our lives.

Here's to the next step.
Here's to making new memories.
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