Judgements and Conversation.

What is it with girls falling for people so easily?
Maybe it's not all girls, maybe it's just me. Maybe my heart is open and ready to love anyone who crosses my path. I'm so open minded about people, give everyone the benefit of the doubt and like everyone unless they give me good reason not to. Whenever I meet people I come to the conclusion of whether or not I will or want to be friends with this person - and if it's a lad, whether I could like them more than a friend or not. That's the only judgements I make about new people really, the relationship I might have with them in the future, because I don't like to judge and I always go into every new relationship with any person, whatever the relationship might be, with an open mind.

Maybe that's why I fall for people for easily - because I keep an open mind and know that I could fall for anyone really. There was one person I had decided I wouldn't like as more than a friend. I don't think I should make those decisions any more because I've proved myself wrong and it's only been a couple of weeks.

I don't really possess the talent of the art of conversation. I haven't mastered it yet. I'm not really good at making conversation with people I don't know that well unless we've been given something to talk about that I know about and I have an opinion on. It's a flaw that I'm working on all the time because I'd love to be able to chat away, be confident and always have something to say. I admire people that have that quality. I admire all of the people I've moved in with and their friends because they all have the talent of conversation and talking, even if the person they are talking to isn't contributing to the conversation very much. Hence, I just sit and listen the majority of the time, sometimes I chip in if I think of something and I speak if someone directs a comment or question at me, but that's pretty much as far as it goes.

Everyone makes judgements within minutes of meeting new people. They say you make a judgement within between 3 and 10 seconds of seeing or meeting someone new which is probably quite true for most people. Within the first 5 minutes of talking to someone, you judge what the person is like, whether you'll get on and you decide what your relationship could be in the future; whether you'll be friends, acquaintances, best friends, enemies, lovers, partners.
You judge people by what they're wearing, what their face and hair look like, by how much they smile, how much they talk, what they say and their expression. I'm terrible for it, but usually I'm right in my judgements even though I know it's wrong to judge.

Well, I've been wrong. I was warned. I'd already decided how far all our relationships would go. Maybe I should just let things run their course and not decide anything straight away.

But is judging really wrong? People say "shouldn't judge". I say it all the time. I believe you shouldn't judge someone in a bad way until you actually get to know them but then it's not a judgement any more. Judgements within the first few minutes should only be good ones, or open minded ones like what your relationship might be with them in the future. Also, if you do think something bad then the conclusion would be "I'll be careful with how I act or how I am with this person just in case", but it shouldn't be a bad judgement. Does that even make sense? I know what I mean. But as I said, I don't have the art of conversation.


What is it with girls falling for people so easily?
Maybe it's not all girls, maybe it's just me.

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