Being Closed Or Open With People.

I used to think that being really closed, secretive and not telling anyone anything was the way to go. When no-one knew your secrets and thoughts then there was no way you could get hurt from them. I admired people who could deal with everything themselves, people who never needed or wanted to tell anyone anything. I always wanted to be one of those people, so I taught myself to do it with every new person that I met. My guard is always up, don't trust them for a long time until you believe they've earned your trust, don't tell anyone anything.

Yesterday, I had the first proper conversation with someone I've met from moving away from home to university. I met him a few weeks ago but last night I had my first real conversation with him one on one and he was just so open about everything. The fact that he's only known me a few weeks and this was our first proper chat, and he answered any deep question I asked, he didn't mind me knowing anything about him and he said that there wasn't anything about him that people didn't know anyway because he is just such an open person. Although I don't know him well, I can imagine that he is a very strong person mentally and emotionally, so being open works for him.

I find that a bit crazy if I'm honest, because my whole life I've been building myself up to a point where I can be strong and independent and as soon as I finally get to that place when I can be those things, someone comes into my life and turns everything upside down and prove my opinions completely wrong all over again.

Do you think it's better to be open or closed? I think I might stick with being closed right now, but who knows what the future brings?

Being at university doesn't just teach you about your course and how to live on your own. It teaches you so many new things about people, about yourself, about the ways of life, about mentalities and how to cope with things.

How many times since I got here have different people said "you've got a lot to learn"? I didn't even realise it before, I thought I knew everything, I thought I'd be sorted for the rest of my life. But now I realise that I've got so much to learn.

I just can't wait to learn it all.
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