Honesty.

I was talking to one of my best friends this evening about blogs and she said "your blogs are soo good" (which made me smile immensely - that is one compliment I never fail to love and be flattered by) "I never fully open up on mine".

Why do we feel the need to keep things from people? Why do we feel we can't be honest with people? Especially when the people are those that we love and trust.
Why is it that everyone has a subject that they suddenly feel embarrassed, scared, nervous to talk about and they feel like they don't want to talk about it? They won't tell the full truth, maybe they'll even lie a little because they think people won't approve of the truth. But what kind of relationship is that?

Disapproval sometimes gives people a nudge in the right direction because they don't want to disappoint anyone again, but what is it's a serious matter? What if they had enough on their plate and they couldn't cope with the disapproval as well, so they just try to keep people happen and say what people want to hear?

Sometimes disapproval isn't the right way to approach people. Is someone thinks they are just going to get negative comments and have their fears, ideas and thoughts disapproved of them of course they are not going to be honest, of course they're going to say what they think people will want to hear.

We don't feel we can be honest with people... Is it simply because we don't trust them? Or because we're too scared that they'll disapprove? Maybe it's because if we say it outloud to someone, if someone else knows about t, it suddenly becomes so much more real, a problem that needs to be dealt with here and now. And someone else is able to put pressure on you and get it sorted. It's not just a little thought in the back of our minds anymore.

But it's okay. Because when you're ready, you'll tell someone. And no-one is going to pressure you. It's up to you. Only you know when you're ready. And only you can helo yourself. Only you know whether you want to or not. It's okay.
You're beautiful, no matter what people say.


So I just want you to know that it's okay. Whatever your secret it, maybe it's something you should share with someone - a friend, a family member, maybe someone who don't know, someone who works to help people with similar problems.
I love you, everything about you. Whatever it is, people are going to love you just the same.


Every secret you have - that's what makes you you.
Don't change because you think people should. Change because you want to.

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