Overprotectiveness.

To all those girls (and guys) out there who have brothers and fathers and other relatives who are way too overprotective, I feel for you and I really hope the overprotectiveness is not to the degree than I know.
If it is, you might be single forever. I think I might be.

It's been happening forever, but now it's starting to get worse because the reality is upon them. I might actually meet someone who I like and that likes me back (hopefully) and my brothers and Dad would have to deal with it and welcome him into our family like they do the girls that my brothers bring home.
Don't be daft, they'd never welcome him in like that. He'd get beaten and gotten drunk, quizzed and tormented first, and if he stayed around then maybe (just maybe, not guarantee) he might be good enough to accept but if he puts one toe over the line then it's bye bye to him, even if I like him and want him to stay around.

Until now, I've just let it go over my head because that's the easiest way. I used to play off it, use it to my advantage, I loved the attention and drama. But now I've grown up a bit and tonight, for the one of the first times, the overprotectiveness annoyed and upset me a little.

There's someone I've got a little bit of a thing and my brothers know of him because he works in our local. I don't even know him really, we haven't spoken much but he's really good looking, eye candy I suppose really. He's been warned of my brothers and their ways by another one of the barstaff who knows them. Tonight, I went to our local with my Dad and we got talking to some guy who obviously knew the lad. This guy must have noticed me glancing at the lad from time to time and asked if I wanted him to put in a word for me to which my Dad (who had had a drink or two...) explained about my overprotective brothers, but my Dad thinks it's a wonderful thing. Later on, the lad went to turn the TV off that was behind me and had to squeeze through a gap between me and a table to get to it. He brushed past me once he'd turned it off and then pretended to trip whilst glaring ast me as if it was my fault, to which I replied "you walked into me!" but I was laughing as I said it. Then my Dad suddenly turns around and starts saying "is he giving you hassle? Is he giving you hassle?! I'll tell your big brothers he's giving you hassle!" I explained thast he was just joking around with me and that we were having a laugh, he wasn't giving me hassle. My Dad didn't seem to understand. As we left, the guy we'd been talking to said "I'll put in a good word for you" and winked at me. I smile and shrugged and I wasn't sure whether to be really happy or quite worried about it, I wasn't sure whether I hoped he would actually do it or not -I'm still not sure.

But anyway, I really hope my Dad doesn't tell me brothers that the lad was giving me hassle (because he just wasn't, whatever way you look at it, and I loved that I got to talk to him!) because I might lose all hope and I'll definitely lose all chance of anything with the lad.

I'm too worried to ever bring a lad home with me. Even one that I've been seeing for a while who I know is decent. That really isn't a good thing. There is nothing I can do about it. I've told my brothers to tone it down but they don't, I don't think they know how to.
It's a nightmare, I just hope that one lad I bring home (when I finally pluck the courage up to...!) they find appropriate and good enough and don't treat him too badly.
I'm a bit insecure, not that anyone would ever know it, and I think that if I take a lad home and they have a hard time off my brothers there, they'll just leave because it's not worth the hassle. It probably isn't worth the hassle, I don't suppose I could blame them. My brothers would never understand that. They think I'm as confident as ever. What do they know?

I love my family more than anything and I would choose my family over friends or a lad anyday, I know I would. That's the way I've been brought up, that's the way my priorities stand and they always will. But I hope that one day my priorities won't all conflict like they do at the moment, like they always have done.



To any person who suffers from overprotective family or friends, I hope that when the right girl or guy comes along for you, your family and friends get along with them and see them fit for you aswell.

I hope you all find happiness in friendship, family and love, all at the same time.
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